Our culture has a complicated relationship with sex.  The story varies slightly depending on where you are in the country, but the basic idea is that it’s a little like watching a giant car crash:  you feel guilty watching, you know you’re not supposed to be entertained, but secretly you find it thrilling.  Even some [...]

One of the most common reason marriages fail is because of sex.  Either one person has an affair, or they fall into a rut of little, zero or really boring sex and they finally can’t take it any longer.  Most of the time, it’s a matter of assumed monogamy.  This assumption of monogamy, it turns [...]

I often recommend that couples, especially those with young children, make a regular date night.  Today I have a suggestion for where to go on your date:  an upscale gentlemen’s club.  Yes, a strip club. Before you come after me with a pitchfork, let me explain.

I’ve been thinking a lot lately about the basic philosophical difference between people who think in terms of “either/or” and those who think in terms of “both/and”.  The latter is the (albeit in its most simplistic form) basis of Tantric philosophy. 

Someone asked me recently how I manage to still have great sex with my partner; after all, we’ve been together for twenty-four years.  She thought there was something wrong with her relationship when, after five years, she no longer had desire for her partner. My answer surprised her.  I hardly ever start out with a [...]