One of the most common reasons couples split up is because of infidelity. For many people, infidelity is a hard limit: no second chances allowed, the relationship is over, period. The end. Nothing stirs up the core wound of betrayal faster than discovering your partner had an affair.

Should you stay or should you go? This is the perennial question in long term relationships that have gotten stale. It’s an important question, but in order to answer it with clarity, you have to ask yourself another important question first. That question is: Why are you in this particular relationship?

Last week I listened to a clip of Dan Savage, syndicated columnist of an article titled “Savage Love.” He was talking about how to make it work when you’re in a long term relationship. One of the things he suggested was to notice the best version of your partner. He said that long term relationships [...]

Flipping through an old Cosmopolitan magazine the other day, I was drawn to the title of an article called “Bacon Sex.” You might think it was the Sex that drew me, but really it was the Bacon. I am shamelessly addicted to bacon, and the thought of combining bacon with another thing I adore was [...]

If you’ve been with me for any length of time, you know I believe that our romantic relationships offer a great opportunity to heal childhood wounds. You might also remember that the opportunity to heal these wounds will come up repeatedly, even if you change partners. Having an unhealed childhood wound or relationship dynamic really [...]