Archive for the 'Divorce' Category

Is It Really a Mid Life Crisis?

Tuesday, July 27th, 2010

I’ve been witness lately to a number of strong, independent women who end up around the age of 40 experiencing a “mid-life crisis.” They decide that their husband or partner isn’t giving them what they need, and they want to leave the relationship. I think it has less to do with being in mid-life and [...]

How to Find an Effective Relationship Therapist or Coach

Tuesday, September 1st, 2009

My partner and I are embarking on another round to therapy to see if our marriage is salvageable or if it has run its natural course and it’s time for it to end gracefully.  While my job is to help other people figure that out, either individually or as a couple, it’s inappropriate for me [...]

Marriage is Hard Work

Tuesday, August 18th, 2009

There is a pervasive myth in our society that a good marriage is like living on easy street.  People have the misperception that there’s never or rarely any tension in a happy marriage.  In my experience, nothing could be further from the truth.  But one thing that separates a good marriage from a bad one [...]

Should You Stay or Should You Go?

Friday, July 31st, 2009

How do you make the decision to leave your marriage or long term relationship?  It’s not a decision to be made lightly, especially when there are children or other joint interests involved.  The first step is to assess what stage your relationship is in. Stage One:  General discontent and boredom have set in. 

Love Is Not For Wimps

Tuesday, July 28th, 2009

I just finished reading Passionate Marriage by David Schnarch, Ph.D.  A brilliant book, full of so many insights I could probably write about it for months.  The essence of his work is about finding and holding onto yourself while you’re still in the committed relationship, allowing your partner to do the same, and using sex [...]