I’ve been thinking about the phenomenon of “friends with benefits”.  Young adults are marrying later in life, which should be better for the divorce rate but may not be.  Men and women are shying away from serious emotional commitments, choosing instead to have casual sex with supposedly no strings attached. Continue reading »

There’s a curious phenomenon that happens in the waning days of a marriage.  I’ve talked with several friends and clients who’ve corroborated my observation.  Women who are unhappy in their marriage fall under the delusion that having a baby, or another baby, will save their marriage.

My advice:  cross your legs, ladies!  Continue reading »

Our culture has a complicated relationship with sex.  The story varies slightly depending on where you are in the country, but the basic idea is that it’s a little like watching a giant car crash:  you feel guilty watching, you know you’re not supposed to be entertained, but secretly you find it thrilling.  Even some of my most liberal, forward thinking friends have uncovered hidden beliefs that sex is shameful. Continue reading »

Falling in love is dangerous.  Specifically, our illusions of falling in love are dangerous to the success of actual love relationships.  We tend to think of falling in love as something outside our control; it just happens.  While that used to be true and still happens today, I propose that we take a different tactic to ensure that love lasts. Continue reading »

One of the most common reason marriages fail is because of sex.  Either one person has an affair, or they fall into a rut of little, zero or really boring sex and they finally can’t take it any longer.  Most of the time, it’s a matter of assumed monogamy.  This assumption of monogamy, it turns out, may be the kiss of death for marriage.  Continue reading »