Love is a wild thing.  It can not be socialized or normalized.  It breathes and pulses and dances to the beat of the Universe.  To expect that Love will keep you safe and secure is utterly missing the point.  To truly, deeply love unconditionally means no safety net, no boundaries.  Continue reading »

As a Tantrika, I see God everywhere… but not like that kid in the Sixth Sense saw dead people.  Instead, I see everyone and everything as particles of divine consciousness.

A therapist friend knows this about me and lent me a book called Fingerprints of God:  The Search for the Science of Spirituality.  In one chapter, the author talks about psychedelic drugs and the “god experience.”  Continue reading »

A friend and I were talking about cheating this week and it got me thinking.  I realized that nearly everyone I know falls into one of four categories when it comes to being sexually faithful… or not.  Here they are: Continue reading »

I’ve been thinking about all the cases of infidelity among famous people lately. I’ve also been thinking about the Catholic sex abuse scandal. Believe it or not, I think there’s a correlation between the two. Hear me out for a minute, ok?

In both cases, unrealistic expectations have been placed on the offending parties. That in no way excuses their behavior, but perhaps we can revise our expectations a little.

In the case of priests, the Church insists they deny their sexual nature. That is just not possible for most people! Then they are constantly surrounded by men and boys; naturally their attention is drawn to what is in front of them on a regular basis. A simple solution would be to lift the ban on celibacy. This idea is even gaining popularity among Catholics, according to a recent survey. It’s an idea whose time has definitely come, IMHO.

Then there are the celebrities. People in the public eye, including actors and politicians, are no different in some ways than us regular folk. Some will cheat, others won’t.

But in another way, they are very different. They are in the limelight, surrounded by adoring fans. Being told how wonderful you are is a powerful aphrodisiac. If you don’t believe me, ask your partner to shower you with compliments for a couple of weeks and see how you feel. I think that if most of us were put in that environment, we might forget we were mere mortals too. Again, this is not intended to excuse their behavior.

Instead, I suggest that we take the noose of insistent monogamy off their necks. Some people are just not inclined to long term monogamy. If we weren’t so uptight about that as a culture, these people wouldn’t be making headlines. If they were honest about themselves to their partners, it wouldn’t be an issue at all.

Our societal rules are hundreds of years old and from a completely different era. I say it’s time to re-think and revise them. Let’s create realistic expectations. And while we’re at it, let’s focus on our own relationships and not worry about what other people are doing.

The Universal Law of Attraction states that like attracts like; what we think about and feel about the most, at the deepest level of our being, is what we will attract into our lives.  This is true, even when we don’t like what the Universe is handing us.

When it comes to romantic love, it’s a little more complicated.  Continue reading »