I’ve been witness lately to a number of strong, independent women who end up around the age of 40 experiencing a “mid-life crisis.” They decide that their husband or partner isn’t giving them what they need, and they want to leave the relationship. I think it has less to do with being in mid-life and more to do with being out of touch with their feminine essence. I say this because that was my own experience a few years ago. Continue reading »

In virtually every long term relationship, someone (and probably both someones) will feel unappreciated.  So much of what goes into managing a household, a relationship, a job or business, and a family has to do with minutia.  All the tiny little things that have to get done every single day, to say nothing of the bigger, more important things, can fill entire weeks without a person feeling like they’re getting anything meaningful accomplished.

But these little things are so important, and when we are acknowledged for our part in making things happen, it can make the minutia feel like it was all worth the effort.  Continue reading »

I want to take some time to write about a very serious issue:  domestic violence.  I was reading a novel recently about high school seniors.  Two of the main characters were a “golden couple;” popular, gorgeous and madly in love.  The young man was also an abuser.  One of the things that struck me was that he was never identified as an abuser.  He was portrayed as someone “crazy in love.” Continue reading »

I’ve been wrestling with the concept of independence for five years now.  I learned codependence really well as a teenager and young adult.  I did the traditional thing:  got married young (at 23) and did the untraditional thing by waiting until I was 30 to have a child… that’s right, just one child, on purpose. Continue reading »

In this technology age, there are many ways to communicate with your partner.  Each one offers benefits and pitfalls.  Texts and email, in particular, offer similar benefits and pitfalls. Both can be used effectively for some communications, but they have their limits.  It’s often too easy to text when you really should pick up the phone… easy, that is, until you find yourself in the middle of a communication breakdown.  Keep these in mind when you’re deciding which method of communication you want to use. Continue reading »