You may have wondered why I often recommend rekindling the passion in your relationship.  Maybe you think you can’t even stand being in the same room as your partner, never mind letting him have sex with you!

There’s an interesting phenomenon that occurs when you allow eroticism back into a stalled relationship.  It’s based on the principle “act as if.”  It shows up repeatedly and I have never seen a couple with whom it has not worked. Continue reading »

One of the biggest complaints I get from women (and men) in long term relationships is that the sex has become either stale or non-existent.  There are lots of reasons for this:  busy lives, children, work related travel, and the fact that the more intimately you know someone, the harder you have to work to maintain an erotic edge. Continue reading »

2009 went out with a bang:  a full Blue moon, with a partial lunar eclipse, on the last night of the first decade of the 21^st century (here in the U.S.).  In a nutshell, that means we were subjected to some pretty intense “letting go of the old” energy.  Did you feel it? Continue reading »

In my last post, I wrote about the eight key factors necessary for GREAT sex.  One of the factors was vulnerability.  Six of the other seven factors required vulnerability as a prerequisite for achieving them.  So it seems to me that it would be helpful to write a little about vulnerability, since it’s so vital to having great sex. Continue reading »

Last summer a team of scientists published a paper in the Canadian Journal of Human Sexuality.  The team had interviewed both individuals having great sex and sex therapists to determine the qualities necessary for what they called “optimal sex”.  They identified eight key factors:  Continue reading »