Archive for October, 2011

Having a Baby Won’t Save Your Marriage

Tuesday, October 25th, 2011

There’s a curious phenomenon that happens in the waning days of a marriage.  I’ve talked with several friends and clients who’ve corroborated my observation.  Women who are unhappy in their marriage fall under the delusion that having a baby, or another baby, will save their marriage. My advice:  cross your legs, ladies! 

Taking Back Sex

Friday, October 21st, 2011

Our culture has a complicated relationship with sex.  The story varies slightly depending on where you are in the country, but the basic idea is that it’s a little like watching a giant car crash:  you feel guilty watching, you know you’re not supposed to be entertained, but secretly you find it thrilling.  Even some [...]

6 Steps to Conscious Relationships

Tuesday, October 18th, 2011

Falling in love is dangerous.  Specifically, our illusions of falling in love are dangerous to the success of actual love relationships.  We tend to think of falling in love as something outside our control; it just happens.  While that used to be true and still happens today, I propose that we take a different tactic [...]

Don’t Assume Monogamy

Friday, October 14th, 2011

One of the most common reason marriages fail is because of sex.  Either one person has an affair, or they fall into a rut of little, zero or really boring sex and they finally can’t take it any longer.  Most of the time, it’s a matter of assumed monogamy.  This assumption of monogamy, it turns [...]

Let’s All Come Out Today!

Tuesday, October 11th, 2011

So, I just found out that today is National Coming Out Day.  That makes me so happy!  I have been a gay rights advocate since college, right around the same time I realized there was such a thing as gay.