Everyone who’s anyone knows that having lots of great sex makes you feel better.  Having a healthy, regular sex life is good for the body, mind and the spirit.  Recent studies by Harvard University and iVillage have brought this to the public’s attention again, but we’ve known about the positive benefits of sex for decades. [...]

This blog is for men and women who have been in a relationship for a long time—say ten years or more.  It’s gotten stale, or worse, and you’re trying to decide what to do. Here’s the thing:  your relationship didn’t get bad overnight.  It’s been a long time coming, and there have been signs along [...]

When a woman is in a long term relationship and it has grown stale, she tends to engage in what I call magical thinking.  It’s part of the process of mourning the loss of romantic love; after the shock, denial and betrayal fade, you begin to bargain with the powers that Be.  But then you [...]

I’ve been working on my new book and it’s thrown me back into the time I left my partner in 2007.  As I re-read what I’ve written so far, it occurred to me that we had a ridiculously long honeymoon phase in our relationship.  For most couples, the honeymoon lasts a few months to a [...]

Here’s a quick quiz to see if your relationship is heading for disaster.  On a scale of 1-5, with 1 being never and 5 being always, rate these statements: I often pick apart the things my partner says I often pick apart the way my partner does things I feel like he doesn’t understand me