Archive for August, 2010

The 5 P’s of Relationships

Tuesday, August 31st, 2010

A few weeks ago, my friend Adam Sheck blogged about the 3 P’s of relationships from an Imago Relationship Therapy standpoint.  The 3 P’s are:  Pick, Provoke and Project. First you pick a partner who reflects the positive and negative traits of your caregivers when you were a child.  We call this your imago match.  [...]

How to Spot Your Imago

Wednesday, August 25th, 2010

I thought it would be helpful to share a little exercise developed by Harville Hendrix.  It’s a great way to figure out what your imago is. Your imago is the composite of all the important positive and negative traits of your primary caregivers when you were a child.  He or she will appear to be [...]

Six Ways to Spice Up Your Vacation

Thursday, August 19th, 2010

It’s vacation time!  Summer is in full swing and here in MA we’re having the warmest, sunniest summer I can remember.  It got me thinking about how to make a vacation getaway with your partner even steamier. Schedule a little time just for the two of you.  Send the kids to grandma’s (as we did [...]

Another Case for Non-Monogamy

Wednesday, August 11th, 2010

Dan Savage is a journalist for The Stranger; he writes an advice column called Savage Love.  I recently had the pleasure of watching a video clip of him, and I now think I’m in love.  He was talking about swinging and non-monogamy, and I know I found a kindred spirit.  Here are a few of [...]

How to Take Responsibility for Your Own Pleasure

Friday, August 6th, 2010

A recent survey conducted by iVillage discovered that less than half of all married women are satisfied with their sex lives.  81% say their sex lives are predictable, and only one in seven had experimented with something new in the past year.  But it’s not because they don’t want sex:  58% of the women reported [...]