Archive for September, 2009

Good News and Bad News About Relationships

Tuesday, September 29th, 2009

There’s bad news, more bad news, and eventually some good news, and then more good news when it comes to men and women in relationships. The first piece of bad news is that Jonathan Gray was right:  men and women truly are different species.  Men really are from Mars, as embodied by the Roman God [...]

Don’t Think

Sunday, September 27th, 2009

One of the best bits of advice I’ve ever received was from my high school French teacher.  In the upper left hand corner of the blackboard, in small letters, he had written “Don’t Think” at the beginning of the year. 

Top Five Reasons to Stay Married

Monday, September 21st, 2009

Having identified my top five reasons not to stay married, I’ve been pondering some good reasons to stay married.  These are my top five reasons that any couple would want to stay married.  None of these reasons by itself would create a stable enough foundation for a strong relationship, but together they create a marriage [...]

The Top Five Reasons NOT to Stay Married

Friday, September 18th, 2009

My partner and I had our second therapy session this week with a highly trained, intuitive and talented therapist.  In the course of the session, however, she said something that has us looking for another therapist.  And, it got me thinking about reasons why people should and should not stay married.

The Question of Monogamy

Thursday, September 10th, 2009

Lately the question of monogamy has surfaced a number of times for me.  I’ve been contemplating whether I genuinely believe that long term (20 or more years) monogamy is a natural state for humans.  This is a pretty intense contemplation, as it runs counter to virtually everything we’ve ever been told in our society.