My mother once told me that, according to the Catholic faith, in God’s eyes a man who imagined having sex with a woman who wasn’t his wife was as guilty of adultery as the man who actually had sex with another woman.  Now that I’m older, I realize that means we’re all going to hell [...]

I’ve been thinking about endings a lot lately, and also about new beginnings.  It has occurred to me several times over the past couple of years that our society really doesn’t know how to handle transitions. The only transition we really celebrate is the one from single to married life through the wedding ceremony.  Imagine [...]

Did you ever notice how the anxiety about doing something is always worse than the actual event?  We spend so much time worrying about things, most of which are completely beyond our control.  Imagine being able to harness all that energy and use it to move toward something positive.

Copied with permission from author, Rod E. Smith, MSMFT (Johanna here—this is a GREAT article on self-differentiation sent to me by a client) Self-Differentiation (a term coined by family therapy pioneer, Murray Bowen) is a progressive, internal interplay between autonomy (separation) and connection (togetherness) while progressing toward developing and known goals. Being an authentic adult [...]

The mind is the largest sex organ in the human body, which is what makes the body fickle when it comes to eroticism. It’s tricky to maintain eroticism and intimacy in long term relationships, because the mind doesn’t forget all the wounds that occur outside the bedroom.