How do you make the decision to leave your marriage or long term relationship?  It’s not a decision to be made lightly, especially when there are children or other joint interests involved.  The first step is to assess what stage your relationship is in.
Stage One:  General discontent and boredom have set in. 

I just finished reading Passionate Marriage by David Schnarch, Ph.D.  A brilliant book, full of so many insights I could probably write about it for months.  The essence of his work is about finding and holding onto yourself while you’re still in the committed relationship, allowing your partner to do the same, and using sex [...]

We each have characteristics that are either masculine or feminine.  Masculine characteristics are things like direction, focus, getting things done, competition, and linear thinking.  Feminine characteristics are things like receptivity, connecting, collaboration, feeling, and multi-tasking.  Feminine essence flows like the ocean, while masculine essence is pointed and direct like a mountain peak. 

Tantra is a Sanskrit word meaning, among other things, “to weave” or “fabric”.  It is an Eastern philosophy that proposes that everything in the universe is One; that everyone and everything is an expression of divine consciousness.  This divine consciousness is named Shiva, and the manifestation of that consciousness is called Shakti.  Together they represent [...]

I’ve been thinking about why so many marriages end in acrimonious divorce. People who once declared they would love each other forever end up fighting over who gets the towels and linens, or something equally insignificant. It doesn’t have to be that way, if we could do a better job of honoring the [...]