Last week I had one of those moments when the veils lifted and I was able to see, with crystal clarity, into my future. It played like a good soap opera, with heartbreak and loss, success, redemption and great love. I’m so grateful for my abilities, but sometimes I need some time to adjust to what they allow me to see. Morgan Freeman in The Bucket List notes that 97% of the people in the world would not want to know the moment of their death. He was in the other 3% until he found out he had lung cancer. I understand what he meant, because it can be challenging to live in each now moment when you want to hurry up and get to the end of the story. Jumping ahead into the future is a type of poison for the mind.

What can we do about shifting our attitudes and consciousness about sexuality to overcome the limitations and conditions we’ve allowed ourselves to settle for? Fear, insecurity, ignorance and complacency are four major reasons people don’t approach sex in a fully conscious way. Any of these for reasons, combined with our society’s general frame of reference for sexuality, are enough to prevent us from evolving as sexual beings. With a little attention and practice, they can all be overcome.

Grown-up sex is a wild, erotic, and ecstatic adventure. It requires us to be present to our partner and to our own bodies. It requires that we ask for what we need, and give feedback on what we receive. It requires a certain amount of vulnerability; a willingness to open yourself to another and expose your heart’s desires.
Based on some comments I received and further contemplation on the subject, I thought I’d explore some of the reasons we don’t engage sexually in a conscious way.